If you've followed along for a while, you know that there's a lot of feminist musings. As a life long feminist, there's not a great deal to be happy about so we have to take the wins where we can.
But over the past few months, there have been a few things to celebrate.
I'm a feminist because I want more for all of us. I love men. And I love women. I love humans and I want more for all of us.
Society does us all a disservice, in these ideas of feminine and masculine traits as opposed to human traits. We all grow up in this set of conditions, according to our gender, which constricts and restricts us all.
Being able to put yourself in someone else's shoes...
A big part of understanding the gender boxes we've been placed in, is hearing and seeing each other stories.
Women don't know what it's like for men.
To have to hide your emotions
To be strong all the time
To not ask for help
To be in the world and feel safe
Men don't know what it's like for women.
To not feel safe
To be valued for looks and relationships over achievements
To have periods
To be 'allowed' to be emotional
And so it's only when we hear, see, listen, pay attention to, get curious about other's stories that we can put ourselves in each other's shoes and try and make the world a bit different for each other going forwards.
This is what I've been loving....
There have lot of opportunities for men to experience how women might feel of late. Here's a couple of examples.
Barbie - This movie did so much for women and men but I've been amused by the outrage that has gone along with it. The main critique is that the movie portrays men poorly and that's where you lose men. Men could have been educated by this movie about feminism and the patriarchy but because of the movie showing men the way they do, men have tuned out because they don't see themselves in the movie.
(I love, love, love the Man Enough podcast - check out their Barbie conversation here. It's fascinating!)
I find this hilarious because this movie flipped patriarchy and showed the men in a way that women have been portrayed for years. All about looks, not the main storyline. Women have been watching these movies for years. The Bechdel test exists for a reason!
There are so many stories that need to be told. Human stories.